I posted this on my blog a week ago, a little late posting it here. Better late than never :)
From my perspective, our own traumas and discomforts have hindered us from giving wholehearted without conditions. When we choose to act in a fashion that is short of absolute love and respect in regards to any type of relationship we are first limiting ourselves and then in turn we limit those around us. We erect protective walls. These walls limit what comes in and what goes out. Love without conditions can only occur when the inner healing begins.
Everything that happens in our life is a perception. Our emotions and thoughts are responses to our own perceptions. Our focus in a particular situation is going to be based on our memory and perception of specific factors of our environment... tones, smells, sights, etc. If the response is negative, it it likely that at some point we encountered a trauma and perhaps have developed a fear of being vulnerable. We might have felt demoralized, traumatized or felt limited in some way. Thus affecting how we perceive that emotional memory or energetic imprint.
If something leaves you with an undesirable feeling the most important thing you can do is look within. Try asking yourself if there has been another instance in your life where you have found yourself feeling the same way. It is important to do this if you want to be able to heal these aspects of yourself. The worst thing you can do is resist/deny these feelings or put them out into the world around you, that will only increase the trauma. The people perceiving these feelings are the ones responsible for them... not the other way around. In other words, no one caused you to feel this way, these emotions are based on how you perceive the world around you. It is based on all the information you have taken in through your entire life. It is based on your memories which some people also refer to as our energetic imprint.
Now, I realize there are many of you thinking... well I just lost my job/husband/child are you telling me that I am not supposed to feel sad/angry/disappointed/bitter? Well no, you have every right to feel which ever way you choose.... but say for example you did lose your job. Say for example you were laid off because of work shortage... there are most likely strong feelings of loss and negativity associated with what could potentially be a traumatic experience. In the midst of this trauma it is very easy to get sucked into a negative thinking pattern and not so easy to climb out of it.
Let us look at it this way... we can continue feeling negative and by doing so we will take what we feel inside and project that negativity out into the world around us until our entire perspective becomes dark and jaded... and by doing so we naturally draw more things into our life that match negative frequency.
Choice number two is to ask ourselves why we feel that way. Is it because deep down we feel like a failure? Is it because we are worried that we won't be able to provide for our families? Maybe we feel that our boss secretly despised us and had been looking for an opportunity to get rid of you all along. But is that the real reason we feel this way? Many people are quick to say yes and leave it at that. By doing so they are safe behind the walls they have build, but they are allowing themselves to feel a constant cycle of pain in regards to past experiences. As rational or irrational as these surface thoughts may be... healing will be difficult unless you are willing to face what you fear and look deeper. Try starting an internal conversation with yourself... go on an inner journey and try to find a point in time where similar feelings have surface and build yourself back up again with sincerity of course. No blame, no projecting... just be aware of those feelings and let go.
Each discomfort we feel is another stone to knock out of the wall that has been limiting us for too long. It is time to heal and move forward as one people with love and respect. Let us celebrate our differences.
Remember if we don't like the station we are tuned into we can always choose a different frequency. Love has a higher frequency than anger. Both speak volumes! Which do you want to hear?